Do we really get on and move on?

If you believe in true love, the exhilarating touch of his hand, the meeting of minds and the first kiss should never fade into memory. And yet, the statistical sample I examined so far indicates that the first kiss will soon turn to mundane quotas for the week.

After the firs kiss, the first murmur of “I love you”s...what next? What is in store for you after cupid's arrow fades into nothingness?? Do we really get on with life with the decision to share the burden and happiness of both your lives together or do you make the decision to move on with just your life…?

When true love fades into once-upon-a-time nostalgic flavour, the relationship turns into a choice. And like all choices, decisions must be made. Unlike your one-time decision to splurge on the new Christian Dior clutch bag and incur a credit card debt for the near short term, a decision in relationship is forever a dynamic choice. Because it involves human being and unlike other animals, simply because we come with brains, we assume that it is our duty to make use of the organ and make life difficult for ourselves by “thinking and rationalising”. So, when your life paradigm changes, your relationship choices changes.

When the calls fade and the mood-swing takes its toil, you must remember one thing: relationships are ninety nine percent hardwork and one percent fate. Hardwork is just as it implies...hardwork.

So, like everyone's work (even if you are living your dream job), work can be a bitch at times. Sweet other times. On a scale of one to ten, fun should take the front-line and sadness should take a backseat. Then and only then, there will be more things to smile about than frown upon in your shared life.

So, when things are down and almost under, it is important to remember the first kiss. Rekindling is not prevention, it is curing. If you call quit in the middle of the journey, you are one hell of a bad actor.

No soul has the right to promise eternal love and back fire on it when the seven year itch starts to itch.

Henceforth, I can never understand the rational behind divorce. I swear that it is a gimmick lawyers conceived to make additional income, and believe me, even they didn't expect it to be a recurring income item in their profit and loss statement.

You can brush a relationship off and say we were young when we got married or it just ain't working. I for one, who live my life with the belief that all my actions has a consequence; will never back down from the consequence. I take credit for both the praises and also the blame about everything that is good or bad about my life.

To expect to stay rooted in first love is childishly idealistic. It will never happen. The mundane-ness of living will overwhelm your floating cloud 9 feeling. To realistically accept that your life and your partner's life consist of many other particles would make the transition from first love to "getting on and moving on" a whole lot easier.